Hey Sisters…
Does the state of the world seem to be getting the best of you lately? I know it’s getting me down and worried and needing support. It’s hard to be a single mom working REALLY hard to make ends meet, hearing about the financial troubles of others and the downward spiral of the economy globally. How can I make it? What will happen to ME? No… we will all be OK.
No matter what life hands you, remember these things:
All You Need is Love.. My daughter with a Basset Hound pup, Hannah.
1. You can do it, and in the end, it WILL be OK.
2. For some reason, women can handle bad things better than men. We are adaptable, pliable, and resilient.
3. Don’t think too far ahead into the worrisome future if you’re stressed out financially. One day at a time, OK? One bill at a time and rejoice in your successes when you get things done and paid for.
4. The world has seen these things happen before. Imagine the worst thing that could happen to you, and then count your blessings. If you have your health, food on the table and friends, you are doing OK.
5. You are NOT alone and for every person you see who seems to enviably doing well, there are 100 other people who are struggling right now. Don’t waste your time being envious. Be grateful and positive and good things will come to you. Jealousy is a draining emotion.
6. Help others and generosity will find you. But don’t help others expecting it back. Be forthright.
7. Believe in yourself and your power and strength!
Times are hard, yes.. but we don’t have to make them worse by worrying. Just today I had coffee with a dear friend of mine who has been very successful in life. She co-owned a business that did well, has a beautiful family, home and many many friends. I sometimes feel badly because my life hasn’t gone the way I thought it would, and my life is financially not the same as my friend’s.. no, not at all. I don’t have financial security, I haven’t had the same mate for 20 years, I don’t own a house, but a condo… I work every day, really hard to make life work… But then I stop my self-induced pity-party and say, “hey, but you have a lot of things that other people don’t, AND you’re happy, loved and healthy.”
And this is true, but the message here is that everyone has their ups and downs and good moments and moments when it starts to feel hopeless… “Will I ever pay off that debt? Will I ever have security?” The answer is YES.. but only if we believe – in ourselves and use each other’s strengths and talents as women and as people. I have a lot going for me and I bet if you stopped to think about that, YOU would too.
My friend is my friend because I love who she IS – inside. Not because of her house and wealth. I love her and she is my friend because she MUST see something in ME that she loves too. And isn’t that what life is about? Connecting with the souls inside the people.
So… don’t let it get you down… LIFE THAT IS. It’s all relative. And a year from now, your worries in this moment will be nothing but a non-sensical memory. Like the wind that blows the leaves off the tree.. fleeting.
Just keep moving forward.
(and get out and VOTE on Tuesday! It took women a long time to get that right – so DO IT!)
